growing pain
When I start to search my future accommodation in Melbourne for my Master's degree,
most house-mates stated that
'only matured adults can apply this - 25 years old and above'
This made me pondered that is 22 years old too young?
But why I feel that i'm not young at all as a twenty-two years old,
perhaps, I guessed the reason is because someone's who have not grown up usually think themselves as old enough.
This made me doubting that am I still consider immature in the eye of society?
This made me doubting that am I still consider immature in the eye of society?
This year,
my chronological age is twenty-two years old.
A few months ago, I experienced a radical transformation of myself,
not physically, but mentally.
I perceived childishness easily and started observing people's behaviour according to their age in social media,
such as the 'status' content that they posted, or the way the commented, I seriously started to observed human's brain in this sense.
And I realized that why people who are 17 years old,
they are completely immature,
people who are 22 years old like me,
most of them are immature too, such as posting raging status about how stupid they are or how their friends treated them or something which is not ironical funny but they thought it's funny.
People who are 23 years old,
they don't have orientation in life, such as don't know what they are doing; why they chose what they studied and what they should do after graduate.
People who are 25 years old,
they scolded their boss in facebook status, it just like a kid who throwing tantrum at home because they never get the things they want,
I just feel that people who showing rage in facebook are really childish,
but I dont know why I perceived that action as childish, no ones defines what is childish to me, but I just feel the action is completely immature,
and this made me have a certain degree of self-reflection for my past,
I keep on thinking that I have a lot of childish actions, such as blocking my ex-boyfriend and high school peers in facebook.
Out of sudden,
I just feel that blocking someone in facebook is just like an immature kid get angry over their peers,
the childishness is indescribable but damn embarrassed about myself,
I sense that blocking a particular person has no reason, no benefits and just show abundant of childishness.
Thus,
I unblocked everyone in the blocking list.
Because I think that as a matured person,
why should I block someone just because I get angry?
It's really super childish...
I really don't understand the reasons why I easily perceived childishness,
I also think of mommy is childish at 50 years old,
such as when people don't agree what she wanted to eat,
and she insisted what she wanted to eat instead of compromise everyone.
Then my mind had a flashback that she said
'Aiya you all dont want to eat, I own self go and eat"
'Aiya you all dont want to eat, I own self go and eat"
then she moved towards the steamboat store.
And also, think of the time when projected the blame to others,
then I will find this super childish.
I just couldn't understand are those considered childish or I am the only one who perceived those as childish?
I also think that blaming others or get angry considered childish....
And even assuming that searching a fight with someone considered childish...
Then suddenly think of Pn Lye's son very childish and start counting his age...
I guessed he's almost 30 (but don't know his actual age, I reckon he is almost 30 based on last time kaima told me, he's now 28 or 29).
I just suddenly feel that the way he behaved is quite childish,
such as finger pointing and the way he shouted.
Thus,
I checked google
'what is the average age human's brain fully mature',
it stated that human brains start develop towards maturity at the age of 15,
and will be fully matured at the age of at least 25 years old to 30 the latest.
Thereby,
human only able to make adult-decision at 30 years old,
such as the maturity to have family planning, financial planning, relationship wisdom and all the adult life accountability.
It is scientifically proven that someone who is 18 take riskier behaviour than a 25 years old,
it is due to the underdevelopment of the prefrontal cortex.
Empirically,
the average human's brains begin the maturity at the age of 13 and complete at 25-30 biologically,
its initial development begins near back of cortex and tend to end at the frontal areas which call prefrontal cortex (prefrontal cortex is a brain part which control our impulse and decision-making process).
By all means,
it is to say that if you have impulse control problem at 18 years old,
you'll feel better to control yourself after the age of at least 25 years old.
"Although you may consider yourself an adult at age 18, keep in mind that your brain still has a ways to develop. Your cognition, ability to assess risk, and think logically will continue to improve as you age. This is considerably different than neuroscience views of the past in which we thought the brain was done developing in the teenage years"
Besides than that,
I search the complex definition of 'childish' in google,
in what sense does someone considers childish?
If not I can't really know what had actually happened to myself that why I keep on perceive childishness easily.
Indeed,
the accurate definition of immaturity is actually what I thought,
like what I listed above
- Blocking someone in facebook
- get angry, showing rage, remain in silence when get angry
- retaliate
- blame someone's fault due to stinginess
- throwing temper due to the failure of instant gratification
- or being aggressive
- negative thought
- inconsistent decisions
- attract attentions
- mix large peer circle instead of have a few real friends (this is common in teenage years due to the needs of peer acceptance)
But still,
this issue really troubling me...
I'm thinking others and myself are childish too,
thus, I checked Google "how childish I am",
it consists of 20 questions with the inclusion of age and gender.
It came out that I'm 86% mature,
it means that I'm not childish, but I still feel that in some way I have a child-like angel in my heart.
How Childish Are You?
How Childish Are You?
Your Result: Your mature.
86%
Lucky for you being mature can be a turn on for many guys/girls. Maturity seems to be coded in your DNA. Just remember to loosen up a little, you don't always have to be perfect.
Your too mature.
You are childish.
Your a mixture of both.
You wish you were childish.
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