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16 Signs You’re Still in Love with Your Ex Gina Vaynshteyn

Falling in love is all-consuming. It makes you purchase a bouquet of sunflowers after work, just because. It encourages you to bake a batch of red velvet brownies because you only crave sweet things. It makes you feel cherished, and wonderful, and needed. But sometimes we break up, and our bubble of happy bursts, leaving us embittered and crushed. Why would this person who loved you destroy your heart like a total monster?

It’s easy to hold on to an ex. You were comfortable with them, you knew everything about them, you thought maybe they were “the one.” Sometimes it takes months, YEARS to get over someone. And you will. I promise. But in the meantime, it’s important to be honest with yourself about where you’re at. Here are some tell-tale signs that you’re still stuck on somebody:

1. You “accidentally” listen to songs that remind you of him.

If Jeff Buckley’s “Hallelujah” comes on the radio, you don’t change the station even though there are dozens of other songs you could listen to. Sometimes you just listen to the album he gave you over and over again, even though now it has a completely different meaning to you.

2. When you’re at the mall, you consider purchasing the cologne he wore.

And subsequently spritzing it all over your pillowcase.

3. You check his Facebook/Twitter/Instagram daily.

Just in case he starts dating someone who is not you. Or you do this to simply feel like you’re involved in his life again.

4. When you think you might run into him, you make sure your outfit is ON. POINT.

You never wear heels to the grocery store, but today you sure are. Lipstick, curled hair, that denim jacket he loved — the works.

5. If you think you’re going to see him, you prepare something witty, yet piercing to say to show you’re so done with him (you’re so not, though).

Something similar to when Charlotte in the SATC movie tells Big, “I CURSE THE DAY YOU WERE BORN,” because Big was a jerk and he deserved it.

6. You physically go to places you know he might be.

His gym. His favorite record store. Whatever. You’re not stalking, you just “happen” to be there, like any old regular human.

7. You re-read old messages and texts and sob.

You annotate every sentence, looking for clues for the demise of your relationship. You ask yourself what went wrong. His rhetoric was so caring! So loving!

8. You certainly do not wish him well.

It’s bad Karma — you know this. But the thought of him being successful upsets you, because exes aren’t allowed to achieve greatness.

9. In fact, you hope he’s alone forever.

This is terrible and you feel a little bad, but mostly you want to see him experience epic loneliness.

10. When you hear he lost his job, or something equally tragic, you gleefully think, “that wouldn’t have happened if he were with meeee!”

Because when he broke up with you, it was the worst mistake of his life!

11. You still talk smack about him to your friends. Like, constantly.

And it feels good. It feels really good.

12. Your friends have said something like, “girl, you need to pull yourself together.”

After the third consecutive month of railing on how you were supposed to spend the rest of your lives together, your friends may tell you to let it go. They’re only doing this for your own good, but a part of you feels betrayed and annoyed because how could they understand, even.

13. You don’t give ANY guys a chance because something someone is still on your mind.

Leonardo DiCaprio could be reciting love poems in front of your balcony, and you could CARE LESS.

14. You write confessional poetry and it’s pretty much all about him.

Metaphors like “the sinking ship,” and “bleeding heart” come up a lot in verses.

15. When you’re feeling bummed out, your first instinct is to call him.

But you realize you definitely can’t do that anymore. It’s not his place to comfort you.

16. You only remember the good in your relationship.

But really, there was a badness that existed between you two. Either you didn’t connect as well as you could have, maybe he was afraid of commitment, or perhaps your personalities didn’t mesh. This is the part where you have to accept that things happen for a reason, and nobody you should be with is allowed make you feel this way. So do what you need to do to, but just know that a day will come where you won’t think of your ex at all.

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Feel like go and find kaimaaaa...

since the day she leaved this world,

she's no longer replies me, no longer cares me and loves me like how she did when she still alive,

however,

the doppelganger between real-mom and god-mom is different.

She, substituted my mom in my daily lives,

she lemme hear her voice and laughter everyday,

I still couldn't put it down all these and feel like go and find her and browse around what heaven look like,

earth is not really well-being for me, both physically and mentally.

Occasionally,

I'll look at the things she leaved me,

her voices that she left in my laptop, her pictures that left in social media and even the memories that she left in my mind.

She's really a good mom who impressed me how to become a good mom in the future,

she thinks of how tired is her child whom worked in a busy firm and asked her not to go to work,

she even ask her son to writes a medical leave letter for her daughter and ask her daughter to stop working for a few days.

To be frankly,

I have never see such a great and selfless mother in the world before,

That's something really impressed and make me feel that I'm in their family,

there's no secret between us and they willing to let me know everything.

Unfortunately,

time is cruel, it don't wait us and it don't tell us what's going to be in the next second.

It's too bad,

the promise between us in whatsapp has not fulfill and she just went that way.

She's the first person who act as my mom,

let me know what's happiness and true roles of mother in the world.

She lemme knows it's not about money and it's about love by proving her silent action.

Absolutely,

I can see her love to her daughter by the way she spoke and demanded.

Inversely,

my mom always ask me go to work and loves me to get more money.

At times,

I had some sort of reflection in the late midnight about what kaima spoken and pl spoken.

The flashback was like kaima spoke

"Better take three days leave la, coz if you never take leave, they also paid you the same price, you take leave they also paid you the same price. Monday don't go to work la.... ask koko writes letter for you say you stomach can already, coz if you didn't use your annual medical leave very wasted...'

Subsequently,

another flashback came into my mind that pl spoke

"That's why I told you rich family really different from average family, you all have a lot money but you all dont have the love, like me and kaima, we love our children very much... so we really very close to each other in the family...."

then the next flashback flew into my mind that mommy said

"You go work la... work is good... go work can get a lot money"

At that time,

I suddenly pondered of why a ruthless person was able to tell me what is love,

why she able to described what's family love and able to differentiate between rich and average family.

I can't denied that my family emphasized wealth more than love,

and we all are being nurtured by wealth since young,

I don't really know why I even straight-forwardly responded her

"But I don't prefer your family culture and willingly to stay with what I having now, if I don't get something before, I never lost it too"

She was quite speechless when I said that, I reckoned she might astonishes,

perhaps, that's the natural feeling and the original thought in my mind,

so that I would just spoke that naturally in the response when she told me that how close is the bond between her family members and how close is the bond between kaima's family members.

She told me once

"That's why I tell you, you don't spoil my anything, because I don't have money to repair, I susah payah let my children study and work like hell alone, you don't spoil spoil my things, if I'm rich like your father, I don't mind... but I dont have money, my children still haven't study finish know?"Yes, from that way, I knew she loves her children more than anything,

but my heart thinking

'Why a violent person could loves her children more than warm-hearted person like my parents?'

Vividly recalled,

daddy even told me

'Do you know you go Australia study, I can buy 50 Myvi cars?'

At that instantaneous moment,

I'm thinking in heart why that violent figure,

she's just a teacher, she could afford her kid to UK?

And when I started to think about the peers around me in Australia,

non of them are teacher's kids.

They are either developer's kids, architect's kids, interior designer's kids and most of them are engineer's kids, perhaps engineering sectors are everywhere?

Yeah, I'm a little bit touched,

a malicious person could demonstrates the power of love until this level?

At once,

I asked mommy a question

'Why she's a teacher, where she got so much money to sent her daughter to UK study?'

Mommy answered

'Because she works with government, so that she has good remuneration from government, they work with government one, can borrow a lot of money, or scholarship...'

Certainly, I dare not tell her about this because she might thinks I belittle her,

so I just disguise and asked her in a good manner

"But you also never spend a lot money, since your child can borrow PTPTN and scholarship.'

She said

'No! All I used my money and they didn't borrow, because I think since borrow PTPTN have to return, so I use my money pay first.'

I said

'If you say you dont have money, why you still can pay first?'

She said

'Because I'm really thrifty, I never simply spend and everyday work like hell know? All the work I do myself you know? And some more all those computer stuff I don't know how to do! So I say you dont simply spoil my things coz I want to let my children study all that, you think sewa rooms in KL very cheap? Eh! eat in KL very expensive you know?'

LOL! She just keep on repeated how expensive is KL expenses and say she no money :(

Yeah, sometimes I watch some motivating movies,

and I get to watch the power of mother love, especially Singapore family movie - We not naughty.

I felt so touching and burst into tears and I get to seen the heartbroken part.

The rich kid came from a really wealthy family where his mother is a Singapore TV host, a motivator and also a great business woman who running her own business.

But due to the lack of communication in the family,

he was a bad uni kid who serves as a loan shark's errand,

his mom asked him don't do that as loan shark is a very terrible career and might get him into trouble,

and he thinks that his mom asked him don't do that because he might vilified her mom's reputation as a TV host,

and he even told his mom that

'I know, I wont tell people you're my mom, because you're the Singapore main TV host right? Of course, I will look after your reputation.'

His mom said that

'No, I don't mind let everyone knows you're an errand of loan shark, and don't mind letting people know you're my kid, but they are very dangerous, because loan sharks are all bad people.'

One day,

when the loan shark cheated the two uni kids and bluffed them to send the illegal drugs from Malaysia to Singapore.

He really being cheated and drove from Singapore to Johor,

when his mom seen something wrong, his mom even give up her biggest project just because of keep track her son's whereabouts,

his mom drove another car and hang up all her business calls,

who knows when the villains took gun wanted to shoot her son,

she suddenly appeared and stop the bad people doing that,

and asked the villains to kill her instead that two innocent kids.

And then,

the son said don't kill his mom and kill him,

because his mom is more useful than him,

his mom presided all Singapore TV news, events and also a motivator to a lot people,

but he's just an errand who contributed nothing in the world,

in order to save her son, she even ask her son to run away first,

and then broke her leg while running away from the villains,

due to the broken legs, she asked her son and another uni kid to run away first,

she just hide herself up and everything will be alright.

And then when the kids ran away,

the villains saw their shadows and then ran towards them,

the villains accidentally found the mother lying in the grass,

they beaten her up terribly and whole face blooded,

and eventually being sent into an ambulance and rushed to the hospital....

That's extremely touching and I cried a few times in the movie....

Awwww.... why all mothers love their kids crazily?

And yesterday,

Chris even told me

'Now, you think that all babies are cute at 2-3 years old and ugly at 9-10 years old, but all their moms think that they are cute and good looking no matter how ugly they are.'

I asked

'Really?'

He nodded his head and said

'yeap! Even i'm unmarried, but I know all mothers think their child good looking and look cute.'

I said

'Yes yes yes! My mom also said I very cute when I said Emily look cute.'

He said

'There you see! I told you, all moms think their own children look prettier than other children.'

I asked

'Why?'

He said

'I dont know, it just a nature. Because you're her child, it just like you're another part of her, and everyone think own self prettier than another one. Something like that....'

I said

'Yes yes yes! You know even my father also think I very good looking, and he even show my pictures to a china tour guild when he having trip at china, and show off how pretty is his daughter...'

Chris nodded his head and said

'But you are absolutely pretty, so your father is not showing off, he's just be proud of you, because not everyone born perfectly, and we cant decide how we look like when we give birth in this world.'

I laughed and said

'Hahaha! Then the china tour guild was so surprised, he said this is your daughter? Is this really your daughter? she looks like a model.'

LOL! Chris said

'Yeah, my niece said you look like model too, she ask me how you searched this pretty model? and ask me how I know you? Then I just answered her, just by coincidence and said you're a friend of my friend.'

I said

'I tell you another funny thing, my younger brother's church-mate also thought i'm a model from my photo, then she asked my brother is your sister a model? Then my brother answered her no, but she said she wonder why in this world got two persons surname as NGOH? Some more both from melaka, then by one day during chinese new year, the girl visited my house for chinese new year, she was so surprised when she saw me I'm inside my house. She came and talked to me, she said previously I am thinking are you Ming Zern's sister? Because both of your surname NGOH, but when I ask your brother is your sister a model? He said no, then I thought you're not his sister and thought I confused already. Then I said I'm his sister, but I'm not a model.'

LOL! Chris laughed like hell,

he said

'Okay! I know the situation by how you describe, my goodness! That's ridiculous! But the fact is no one don't believe you're not a model. Hahaha!'

I told him

'Hey! Lemme show you, my father likes my this picture, and he always said that he like that picture so much, look like Chinese actress and even show others during his china trip. So next time you help me take a nice photo, so that I can show my father again. Let's make it like a memories, life is short. I don't know how many times he can have a glance at my pictures in his lifetime and see how pretty is his daughter in this generation. Maybe next generation, he married an ugly woman and got an ugly child.'

LMAO! Chris said

'My goodness Clarissa! How can you be so mean to curse your father in next generation that he got an ugly wife.'

I laughed and said

'hahaha! Just kidding, I mean just treasure and generate more what we having now. I'm now watching a new Taiwanese sitcom, I feel that the movie is so depressing but touching, just an accident, the young man couldn't see anything any more, it's really really troublesome, from what he knows, he perceived from heard and touch only, the feeling is like there's a piece of darkness in his world, morning is like night and night is still night. How terrible is that.'

Indeed, life is short,

now I leave a 'bestest' godmom in the world.

I cried desperately in the midnight when I recalled she told me once

'Sometimes, it's really hard to tell, mother and daughter really need certain sort of fate one, if you dont have it with her, means you dont have it with her, but never mind, you can have me as an external mother, and we can be together forever, you still so young, what you scared? we still have long road to go.'

Unpredictably, just after two years,

she just passed away in the twinkling of an eye,

I thought it will be permanent than what I thought,

and I believed that what she said is so true, because I heard that in a movie too,

the lady in the movie told another teen girl,

"sometimes, we cant change the fact but we can change the fate, love is not about consanguinity, is about the accumulation of relationship, even she's your real mom, if you dont have a good relationship with her, it's still equals to zero, and even I'm not your mom, but if we two have the earnest relationship like mother and daughter, we are still the closest person in the world.'

Thus, after I linked this statement with what kaima told me,

I really decided to named her as my second mom in my heart,

but who knows she just died without saying bye to me,

she wasn't cruel at all, but I guess it's the clock from the God,

Now,

I still trusted the law of consanguinity, which we judge a relationship according to closeness instead of consanguinity.

What I wanted to do now, is treasure those whom treat me goodly,

spend for those who treated me earnestly and love more those people who stick around with me,

and the most crucially,

try to lessen my hate towards the one who claimed that she is now 'sayang' me.

Vividly recalled one of the funny parts,

she said

'Ok now I sayang you, last time maybe I never give you the love, but now I give you like how I sayang my children.'

Then I said

'But I scared my parents know.'

She said

'I mean if your father knows I love you, not good meh?'

Without think twice, I poured out the deepest voice in my heart,

I said

'No good, I scared the more you sayang me, the more my parents worry.'

LOL! She said

'No la! What nonsense are you talking about, the more I sayang you, the more your father will happy coz we are friend, sure he very happy. You ah! Like that also you can think of...'

I said

'Because my father still scared of you... so I know he will scared if you treat me good.'

She said

'Who scared of me? Your father scared of me? What nonsense are you talking about....'

I said

'If my father not scared of you, then why when he thought I'm inside your house, he so scared?'

She said

'Because your father scared when you come and disturb, the neighbour all dont like mah, so he scared...'

I said

'Why if the neighbours dont like me, he will scared? The neighbours caused what harm to him if they dont like me?'

LMAO! Our endless ridiculous debate really made me laughed like hell when I'm doing the house chores alone,

especially when I'm taking shower, washing plates and mopping the floor.

I really laughed those words out of my lung :)

But on the other hand,

when I think the opposite way,

aren't that if she treats me badly, my parents even more scared?

Now,

I'm thinking.... hesitating... yet laughing at the situation....

she'll be more desperate if she treats me good or bad?

LOL!

When I rewind one of the most touching parts which touched Kaima's heart,

Kaima said I'm such a fool when I told her insecurely

'Hmmm.... you.... you... I... I.... I rather want her to treated me badly than treated me goodly, because the more she treat me good, the more I feel she's scary... So, since I already used to how she beat me, I already numbed by what she did, I really dont mind... You see! The last one she beaten me until like that, I also never complain... so, ask her be who she is like before, just be herself, don't changed because of me....'

Kaima said

'Aiyoooo, you this foolish girl, where got people think like that one? Ain't that she treated you good then very good?'

I said

'But I already used to she treat me bad already, once she became good, I'll feel she's very scary, dont know what she wants to become and what's her motive... so since I also never grumbled what she did, just ask her be herself... be original... Just like me, I also never change because of her, I am still myself, I am still behave how I behave, and encountering what I encountered.'

She said

'No, this time you can trust her already, she really changed and want to become good, you see! Today she suddenly bought this lipstick for me, she suddenly walked into my room and said Nah, ji gei buei ho lu... then I said Aiyo ah so! Ji mi buei ho wa.... bian la.... I said like that... then she said she want to thank me for letting you trust her...'

I said

'I never trust her, I just dont want to show face in front of her....'

She said

'Wait, you havent listen finish what I say... then she just give me the lipstick, nah duh... this one she gave me one... red red ! Hahahaa! And then if she really have scheme or if she's acting, why she still want to act in front of me and buy lipstick for me, that's mean this time she's real good one...'

I said

'Then why suddenly want to treat me good? Or she got any benefits so that she wants to treat me good?'

She said

'No la! If she treat you bad, she also dont have any benefits, so why should she treat you bad?'

I said

'Who said treat me bad dont have benefits for her? Can beat me means her benefits lo, because she likes to beat people.'

She said

'Actually, I tell you, a real person is a very soft-hearted person, is not as what you think, is not that violent as what you think, I dont know la, maybe I never see the part you seeing or experiencing, but in front of me, she really good one.'

I said

'Then you think if a really soft-hearted person, why she can don't care people is in painful state and keep caning me? Not only bad people will like that one? Because I know when kind-hearted saw people is in pain, they will suddenly stop beating people because they can sense that people already very painful.'

She said

'Aiyoooo I also dont know how to tell you bout that la.... it's a really coincidence matter happen in her family, maybe I tell you, you wont believe, but I tell you, she really told me her family matter happened on that week, not that specific add math day la, on the other day, but same week...'

I straight forwardly responded in a cruel manner,

I said

'Man will do that is not a surprising thing.... it's nothing to be surprised.... if for those people who experienced the same thing as her, then those ladies not want to kill people already? I feel the incident is just a purposeful resentment which backup with a lamn excuse, I thought that the purpose of marriage is to generate double wealth instead of single income as being unmarried.'

That time,

Kaima was shocked I said that, it take some time for her to replied me,

maybe 10 seconds for her to think what she gonna says in the next,

because she think that in my mind, there's only wealth and no love exists,

she said

'No, Clar, I tell you, sometimes, things are unpredictable one, we cant predict what will going to happen in the next, this second is good, but doesnt mean that next second is good.'

I even suddenly burst into tears and said

'yeah right! Just like the unpredictable add math right? Things are fine a second before, a worst like hell in the next second, very unpredictable, and dont have psychological preparation at all...and then just leave a trauma for a lifetime.'

She said

'Then she also same like u.... she also never predict that thing will happened in her family, and dont have preparation at all, and it suddenly happen, and then suddenly emotional outburst.'

I said

'Okayyyy! If she really really want to emotional outburst, why the person is me? why is me? If she genuinely never hate me, then she will beat me until like that? What to say I already give her chance to speak it up the reason why she beaten me up like that, she's the one who chose to give up in answering and diverted my question into her favourite topic, She.... she... she really has hidden conspiracy...'

Okayyyy bye!

Even Kaima can't answer me the statement above, but... Sherryn texted me and replied me the above answer...
She said Pn Lye has no any conspiracy because she CNY didn't beat me and also gave me Ang Pao.

Okay, noted and understood :)

That's the biggest gift ever that I received in my life. Hooray!

Hope I got Ang Pao next year too.

From what I want is not the wealth in the red packet, but the security from the red packet..

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Assessment #2 - Minor essay (Graded)

Question: To what extent is globalisation a uniform and inevitable process?

In your essay you will need to acknowledge debates and weigh up competing theories about the extent and nature of globalisation. This should be done by recognizing and exploring global social trends and illustrations of global phenomena, either by drawing on your own personal experience or through detailing contemporary socio-political events.

Introduction

Globalization is an inevitable process in the world due to the process of liberalization as well as global integration across diverse markets, from the perspective of labour to commodity and from services to the advance technology. One of the largest problems of globalization is that while market integrating the new commodity and services, the capital improves at a fast pace; labour markets are radically not integrated. Robert Reich (1991) raised the point that “Who we are?” and finalized the conclusion that most production factors such as capital, technology, production plants and capital goods, can be exported internationally, besides than the non-tradable land, the merely true national factor is labour, that can only globalize in a slow pace, in certain circumstances, never globalize at all. Thereby, the “we” in Reich’s question refer to the labourers.

To what extent is globalisation a uniform and inevitable process

In these days, globalization is one of most controversial issues in the world, it can be explained as the increasing development of economies, societies as well as civilizations. Unlike internationalization, which means by the relations among nations, globalization is an adjustment process that works across units and influence all perspectives of human's life, it ranged from the flows of capitalization, through political collaboration, to the flow of notions. Inevitably, it also includes environmental pollution, criminal behaviour, illness, and eventually terrorism. Most of the time, travel and tourism serve as the first causes and results of globalization process.

Whereas globalization in tourism has attracted a certain research interest, most researches have tended to centralize on international hotel chains as well as airlines (Dunning and McQueen 1982a, 1982b; Johnson and Vanetti 2005; Rodriquez 2002, Williams, 1995). Nonetheless, this had shown how insufficient the literature has discussed the in-depth performance of globalization in tourism, and also how few the interest has been used it in terms of theoretically (Bianchi 2002; Cornelissen 2005; Fayed and Fletcher 2002; Knowles, Diamantis, and El-Mourhabi 2001, Smeral 1998, Wahab and Cooper 2001). Despite both of the positive and negative impacts of globalization are on the agenda at all stages of policy levels, there is a widespread prediction that tourism is something exceptional, an industry where global mechanisms and consequences do not involved. This is what two travel agents in the Danish tourism industry remark:

Firstly, Jorgen Hansen (2005) claimed that tourism cannot be outsourced. Thus, in an epoch with blooming globalization, tourism is a very amazing industry. It is unclear that why politicians do not widen their vision to see the benefits in the aspects of income and employment, and acted accordingly with an effort to give impetus to tourism.

Secondly, Ulrik Bulow (2005) proclaimed that it is an unchangeable fact that jobs created by tourism sector are a promise to stay in the country. Besides than that, tourism also gives chances for people in the labour market category who unable to get into technology sector, particularly those whom struggle in reduced circumstances.

These two statements were eventually calls for an increased concern on the service industries and also for increased the needs of tourism marketing campaigns. However, the weak points in the literature show a distinct importance of conceptualize globalization in tourism further and to implement theoretical and evidence studies of its casual relationship, direction, extent and impacts.

Roundtable: "Globalization, Postsocialism, and the People's Republic of China"

The founder of Chinese post-socialist Li Xiao Jiang, London-based scholar Lin Chun, sociologist Huang ping and a Chinese historian Barlow Tani (2001) have discovered a similar statement in response to gender, feminist criticism, globalization as well as post-socialism. When considering about what kind of political events is worth to spend time reading it, and what sorts of lessons can be speculated by our own personal experience. We usually take a glance at the People’s Republic of China. Perhaps the concept that they are proposing is a clear alternative to the increasingly conventionalized globalization debate. Huang Ping centralized in how gender and generation influence the degraded agriculture relations of production, his concept in class formation within the massive national and international borderland which is impermanent or migrant labour. From this perspective (the transmutation of labour from suburb to town poverty), it is unclear that why globalization is a question, in the exclusion that historical investigation as a question.

Chinese Nation-Building and the Rethinking of Globalization and Education

Recently, in the globalization theories, it is perceived that the governing institutions, discourses and cultural forms have been revolving around the world all originated in the West. Meyer John and Francisco Ramirez (2003), for instance, propose that a set of interconnected global models of educational practice, it all based on Western origin, are going to dominate the world. Theorists such as Mitchell Dean (1999, p.209-210) explained the original concept of governmentality as 'the different ways that governing is thought about contemporary society that can in enormous part be traced to Western Europe in the old century'. Besides than that, it is generally perceived that the era of nation-building in the West was earlier on the current period of globalization - which the forms of standardization and institutionalization began in the process between nineteenth and early twentieth-century Western nation-building led to the formation of standardization and institutionalization that have day by day spread around the world since the mid-twentieth century and also, inversely, the power of what is being globalized at this stage is so powerful that independent projects of nation-building are not a big deal any more. In this sense, Saskia Sassen (1006, p.16) debates that since 1980's, the 'building national states' has been substituted by 'building global systems inside of national states' as the most vital form of global conformation. The powerful forms of nation-building befall in China today, yet, are beginning to affect the globe in the perspective that it is unexplainable in the sense of globalization of Western practice. They lighten the foremost significance of nation-building projects, at least in populous countries.

On the other hand, the latent effects of Chinese nation-building on the rest of the world can be observed from many perspectives. Karl Gerth (2010) disputes that purely due to the market scale, the preferences of Chinese consumers are going to drive engineering and design trends in industries particularly in automobile manufacturing, cosmetics as well as chemical processing. Many have portrayed the impact of Chinese actors in Third World countries, especially Africa, and argued the significant degree that Chinese actions abroad imitate earlier Western colonists or demonstrate an original and distinct development model. In addition, Chinese techniques of administrating the social media may also spread more vastly as more and more governments try to control what nations see as inappropriate speech in cyberspace, these contents include child pornography, racism speech or any other random political opposition.

The most importantly, in education sector, the hidden influence of Chinese standards and practices on the rest of the world is broad in the same vein. It has been some time that Chinese language has been standardized in the People's republic of China which is taught in Chinese language classes all around the globe. Literally, mandarin language teaching is earnestly spread by the People's Republic of China through the 'Confucian Institute', that according to its formal website, had 691 institutional branches spread across 91 countries in October 2010. While studying in China, foreign students not merely improve their Mandarin language skills, but also learn a diverse technical skills and nuances of educational and social interaction. Besides than that, Chinese educational practice also focus in extreme exam-oriented competition at Chinese schools. To a significant degree, this educational culture influence educational practice at other countries. As China becomes richer, more Chinese parents send their children for abroad study since high school. They bring their exam-oriented methods which learned in China; fully make used of it and thus often excel in subject such as mathematical science, and subsequently this advantage may lead to other students to compete their study habits. For this case, it always happen in Australia high schools, where Chinese students dominate the academic positions in class despite their lack of English language skill.

Basic education reform in China: globalization with Chinese characteristics

Rather than merely focusing in education, information technology is another aspect which allows globalization to take place in the world, globalization has created a new internationally economic, political, cultural as well as educational world order. Luke and Carrington (2002) claimed that with the daily increased capitalism around the globe which mainly led by the developed countries, the globalization process has caused in homogeneity on one hand; diversity and heterogeneity through crossbreeding on the other hand. Thus, this resulted a "push-pull" effect, "mediated and refracted by local variation and response" (Luke & Carrington, 2002, p.55; Ferguson, 1992), that has considerable impacts to not only economically and politically; also culturally and educationally for all nation-state or local community.

After more than thirty years of reform since 1978, China has involved the globalization process with Chinese characteristics. As a socialist country, for ages, ideological debates rose more than the differences between socialism and capitalism. Nonetheless, in these days, China has employed a globalized and market-oriented strategy to hits its economic targets. For more than ten years, Xu (2009) mentioned that the globalized market economy in China has keep it up as a fast-growing pace at a yearly growth rate of about 10%. In this sense, Naughton (2000) added that the booming economic growth is characterized by the increased numbers of industrialization, privatization of means of production, labour commoditization, the increasing numbers of a new wealthy class and many more. Liu (2005) argued that despite of people's living more in materialistic life, the government and its cultural elites recently publicized that these rapid changes have been comply at the expense of extensive and serious environmental degradation in both suburb and town regions; increasingly loss of arable land to the creation of industralization, enormous gap between the rich and poor, and resulted many social problems and educational injustice. Unfortunately, these issues brought about many psychological and ideological difficulties for many Chinese nations and created countless grudges towards the reform, globalization and the government (Liu, 2005). Hereupon, Chen (2004) pointed that the government and its cultural elites started to dispute which what China needs to commit the most is not hitting the economic target but also protect its environment, to secures social and education justice to the nations for sake of build a peaceful society.

Conclusion

Last but not least, it is crucial for China educators to understand what kind of educational issues are they facing in the globalization process, and then find out the curricular and teaching method dilemmas and problems of equity they are encountering in the aspect of the global environment. This essay concluded several concepts which interrelated with globalization - post-colonialism, process and development, Westernization and Easternization particularly in China. Westernization is a concept defined as being contiguous with globalization whereas Easternization is the opposite concept which explains how its culture flows from East to the West. In contrast to the any other flows, globalization consists of diverse direction flows with no single particular point of an origin to another geographic region.

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