A meaningful chapter
Today,
I had learned a meaningful chapter in sociology, an unusual knowledge about society,
which is Chapter 7 "The social construction of reality".
At the beginning,
I find it so hard to understand when I first glance the chapter title "The social construction of reality".
I'm asking myself
"What does it meant?? Social construction = communication, reality = fact, and end up with communication fact?"
In our course home page,
there's a direct link for further understanding of the chapter,
once I clicked the link,
I'm being directed into Wikipedia page of "The social construction of reality".
The wikipedia page always easier to understand when compared to our journalism textbook,
I'm pretty sure that is why our lecturer provide us the wikipedia link for us to have a better absorption prior to the further reading of the chapter.
Firstly,
the first concept was "Social stock of knowledge",
it mentioned about the concept of human knowledge from primary socialization to secondary socialization.
In a simpler meaning,
primary socialization defined that in a basic level we would feel shamed when we undergo nudity while secondary socialization defined that in advanced level we have different sense of dress code.
This concept also significantly implied us that
"People who have higher general knowledge or higher common sense would probably aesthetically wear better than those who have lower general knowledge".
Certainly,
when I read this phrase,
I find it so true based on my observation.
Those of my friends who are smarter, they really wear prettier or nicer than the friends who are not not really intelligent.
LOL! Bad to say that, but it's fact.
Or perhaps,
we can conclude that it's because their intelligence make them prepared themselves better?
Subsequently,
I find it so true on the next notion 'language and sign',
it stated that language plays an important role in the analysis of integration of everyday reality.
Language converge with common sense knowledge with linking meaning,
therefore enabling people to interpret dream through understandings in the daytime.
Signs and language provide interoperability for the construction of everyday reality:
I felt like this is exactly remind me of my dreams.
That is why I always tell Ah Rui
"Dreams really will become real, got one time I dreamed of Pn Lye pulled me on the stony street, it really happened after my dream, and I dreamed it first. And I dream of Pn Lye husband got really big stomach and toothless, it really became real after I woke up. So I knew dream is real."
She keep denied the facts and saying that
"Dreams are not real, it just a dream."
Now,
I finally came to a realization that dream actually is a part of daily common sense which came from signs and language.
That is why Hung Kiat and me would dream of a similar situation but with different language.
LOL!
He said he dream of having conflicts with Pn Lye,
but the mode of the dream is entirely in mandarin version.
I told him
"I also dream of I fight with her or having conflicts but her, but I never dream of mandarin version before. All coincidence in English version."
At this stage,
after I have read the concept of "Signs and language",
Language is capable of becoming the objective repository of vast accumulations of meaning and experience, which it can then preserve in time and transmit to following generations…
I understood that actually it's neither about coincidence nor language of dream.
It's from an explicit sign of her intention which serves as an index of subjective meaning,
sometimes I could even exactly dream of she giggled in her dream like real life,
*Her face facing upward and closed up her eyes laughed like a Laughing Buddha
And one of the time,
I could even explicitly described about what I had dreamed to kaima,
I could even repeated what she said in the dream for 1 minute for kaima,
act how she scolded in my dream,
Kaima really laughed till burst into tears and said my dream all became real.
Even the way I 'mumbled' was 100% same like her.
Such as saying
"Okay! We dont care her, now we moved already, left her alone wandering here, never mind... Ha! See how long she can stay here.... now we shift to another place already..." (something like that)
LOL!!!
Kaima really can't stop laughing because I could exactly act out her mumbling style.
Yeap!
I believed the theoretical explanation on top,
dreams were actually accumulated from abundance of time and experiences,
if not I wouldn't be able to act out her style or dreamed a style which wasn't her,
Besides than this,
I find this is so true "Institutionalization"
Institutionalization of social processes grows out of the habitualization and customs, gained through mutual observation with subsequent mutual agreement on the “way of doing things”. This reduces uncertainty and danger and allows our limited attention span to focus on more things at the same time, while institutionalized routines can be expected to continue “as previously agreed”:
Common sense is actually gained through mutual observation with subsequent mutual agreement on the "way of doing things", this make us reduce the uncertainty and danger.
In a simpler meaning,
when we are cooking, we will aware of the common sense danger like the spouted of oil,
so we will stand in a further distance to avoid the danger.
But in a deeper meaning, I applied this meaningful circumstance on me,
I've been knowing that she is going to intended harm me,
told me to move forward to get the key from her,
as a 'common sense' from institutionalization of social processes which gain through mutual observation,
I am hesitated to get the key and decided did not move forward at the end,
because I know that she is going to harm me as a very 'common sense' from daily interaction. Haha!
Therefore,
this reduces the uncertainty and danger on me and allows me to have limited attention span to focus on more things at the same time,
such as how to get back the key without moving forward and how to deal with this difficult person. LOL!
Even until now,
when anyone tell her about the good she wants to do to me,
I'll think of the further consequences first instead of the projection of her goodwills.
Because all these came from the common sense which accumulated in time and experiences.
It's really hard to believe she's really good to me!!
Feel like slaaping myself !! The reality seems so impossible to me!!
Don't say I have no faith in her or dont expect mysterious will happen that I will straight believe her in 1 year if she treated me badly for 10 years,
it's all because the bad times I have had were more than the good times.
In fact, I'm not exaggerating about time or years,
seriously speaking, from next year onward,
we really know each other for 10 years already. LOL!!!
The truth is she started to treated me badly since form 1 but not as bad as today.
Vividly recalled the years in form 1,
even I swung on the door also she made complained to my father,
and I called Lim Cheng Kim as "Lim Cheng Kim" also she complained to my father,
yelled at me and hit me for several times.
Form 2,
she started to harmed me,
I remembered she bluffed my father said I loved a guy in class and wrote love letter to him,
in fact I didn't not.
And the guy was Desmond. LOL!
Form 3,
she cheated and harmed again for Lai Yoke Pin case,
she used of me and framed me at the end,
saying that it's my own cutter!!
Oh my gosh!!!
You can witnessed that there was a worsening transformation in our relationship from form 1 to form 3.
In later,
she bluffed my father said I played her God and threw brick into her house,
but in fact I did not.
At the worst part,
she told police that I am trying to break into her house and steal things.
OMG!!! LOL!!!
Obsessive liar, compulsive framer or Obsessive-Compulsive disorder??
Or perhaps obsessive-compulsive beater?
*Practice makes perfect 'hitter'
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