Realistic world

After a midnight chat with Syi Rui,

ultimately I realized friendship is a very and really scary status.

She told me

'The world is not realistic, but the fact is realistic, people who are rich could only mix up with rich people, whereas the poor people, not they don't want, is because they don't have the ability.'

After yesterday a long 30 minutes chat with her,
today,

she even posted this on my wall



Literally,
she implied me
'DONT AFRAID OF PN LYE, BUT AFRAID OF THE FRIENDS WHO MAKE USED OF YOU.'

Sometimes,

I don't really know is because of the reason of Syi Rui disliked of Emily so she always discriminate Emily to me.

she always tell me

'Trust me, Emily's family background still dont reach our standards, so certainly there is a gap between both of you. You have so many friends in Australia which they came from a very rich family, you just mix them and me enough, why you still want go and mix Emily?'

I said

'But we are really close since I form 3, almost 6 years friendship! I knew even she is not very rich, but she treats me really good, she got bought things for me when I came back from Australia.'

She said

'=.= ! Again! You dont because people treat you slightly good, you just become so soft-hearted and keep thinking that person very good. Emily just think you are Anak Datuk, so only she near you. Why until now you still can't listen into your ears? This world is just like that, who dont want near Anak Datuk?'

I said

'But she near me got what benefit?'

She said

'Alot ! First is because you are rich, she will thinks when she comes out with you, she no need to pay, second, she knows you are rich, so the place you go is always the expensive place, she can enjoy for free. Third, you are rich people sure always overseas holiday, like go America, Europe, Spain, New Zealand all those... so if she near you, sure you buy things for her. All these she untung lo... that's the benefits of nearing you. And the most important is your character, people just Po your a bit, Clar... buy this for me la... we can wear the same please la clar... you just buy... The last and the most important is because you are too easy to be taken advantage.'

I said

'Ya... I knew all these, when I went Christina's house... Christina's mum also got told me about Emily, her mum said they are far relative... she also got said Emily's real family is not rich ones... she said last time they stay one kampung ones... and she also got told me Emily only mix with rich people, she said poor people she never mix ones... she told me you never see the people around her all rich rich ones... her boyfriend and best friend.... then she said you never see my daughter she never mix ah?'

She said

'There... everybody telling you the truth, is you yourself unwilling to accept and listen, Hung kiat told you, I told you, your MMU friend that one seen Emily one time also told you d... some more until other people's parent also told you the same thing... your own mum also got told you edi lo.... why just can't you don't mix her so much? She near you because she take granted of you.'

I said

'I dont know, I just felt like Emily is a very innocent person, maybe to other people, people will think she take advantage me because I am rich, but for me, I think she never think too much about my feeling because her innocent.'

Syi Rui said

'Clar.... until what stage already you still said like that? I really dont know how to explain to you, I only can say this emily is not that innocent as you think, in real, she is smart girl, very smart ones... she is smart at targeting rich people. You really think she is so innocent? I tell you, through the way she behaved, I already can see out she is pretending stupid. Clar... I dont know ones leh... got like this ones meh? All those are pretended.'

I said

'Why you said the same thing as Hung Kiat? Hung Kiat keep saying Emily pretended stupid all the way.... Hung Kiat said is Emily's mum taught her to pretend stupid.'

She said

'Her mum taught her that one don't have la... I think is she pretended herself ones... because she wants to let you think her don't know everything... then you will think aiya Emily dont know ones la... emily very innocent ones la... then everything let her be... tolerate her...'

I said

'How to say?'

She said

'Means like you always think her Aiya Emily is like that ones la... emily always late ones... then as time goes, she will think Aiya no matter how Ah Clar will wait me ones la... because Ah Clar know I will late ones... all these means she is taking your advantages.... Why can't she think I must wait Ah Clar, Ah Clar will reach ones?'

I said

'Haha! Because I wont late ones.... I go out with who also I very puncture ones....'

She said

'Dont u think she very selfish?'

I said

'Dont know... I never think until that, I just think every friend also got own weakness.... so just let them be and tolerate...'

She said

'You see! Last time you were in Hospital waiting medicine, she comes and fetch you, she keep phoning you, Clar ok edi or not ? Want to come down edi or not? This means that she can't wait even a second, she don't have the patience to wait ah... you understand what I am talking or not?'

I said

'Patience got related with friendship?'

She said

'No ah... you understand what I am talking about or not? My meaning is she can let you wait her every time, but she can't wait people, this is the most selfish person.'

I said

'Aiya... actually every person also got own weakness, Emily this person, I been as her close friend for many years edi, all her weakness I very understand of it, number one, she cant wait, number two, always change decision at last minute, she is changeling, at first say want go here, at last minute say want to go another place, third is she really impulsive, the way she talks is very hurtful to anyone.'

She said

'Dont know... for me I wont mix this kind of person, for me, I think people who dont have patience  are usually selfish, they just think of own self only, they can't wait.'

I said

'Aiya... Emily is like that ones la... but her person very good.'

She said

'There! Again! Because you always think Aiya Emily is like that ones la... nothing ones la... so you are easy to be taken advantage.... I just think people who dont have patience is really selfish...'

I said

'Actually my person also dont have patience ones... so you mean I also selfish la?'

She said

'No... You are different, even you dont have patience, but you still will try your best to wait someone, like you come and fetch me, you wont keep phoning or SMS all those, you will just tell me you reach edi, then waiting down stair... This is the big difference between Emily and you.'

I said

'Then your main point is telling me Emily is not rich people so dont mix her or her character?'

She said

'Both! From last time I knew who is Emily in school, I already feel like dont mix her....'

I said

'Why?'

She said

'You forgot d ah? Last time in school everybody spread Emily go and kissed Sally's boy friend in front of Sally. Last time Sally is her best friend leh... how can she do that?'

I said

'Oh.... that one I also got heard before... aiya... I already told you just now... actually is nothing ones... Emily's top 3 weakness, first is impatience, second is changeling, third is impulsive, she just very impulsive never think so much until Sally, she just think Rong Yao's birthday and gave him a birthday kiss... that's all... she really never love rong yao la....'

She said

'Dian ones... where got people like that ones... just like Hung Kiat's birthday, I go and kiss hung kiat in front of you? Use your brain and think la... nobody will do this....'

I said

'Anah.. I know la... that's why I told you Emily very innocent ones...'

She said

'Again! I already told you Emily is not innocent, she is SMART GIRL ! SMART GIRL! Very smart ones... She only mix with rich people.... but she hasn't reach the standard. Rich people wont stay flat, at least a Teres. Her that old flat, I think 50-60K can buy it edi...'

I said

'Teres? You mean rich people must at least stay house like Pn Lye's house?'

She said

'Anah! At least.... at least a double storey Teres...'

I said

'Emily told me actually is because last time she standard 6, her father fired a manager, then the manager catch her away and bluffed her into a hotel and took a lot money from her father... so her father only will bankcrupt... '

She said

'Come on! If her father is really rich, even took a lot of money away from him, after few years sure will earn back ones!'

I said

'Anah! You never see her house got 2 Mercerdes? Consider rich la...'

She said

'That's why I said Emily's whole family is jaga muka ones... he just want to show off.... normally people sure want to get a comfortable place to stay down first, then remain money only go and buy big car....'

I said

'Yes... Emily said because after she been kidnapped, so her father refused to stay big house and refuse to let people know they are rich.'

She said

'She is just pretended rich, not real! Clar... listen to me, Emily is using you. Dont forgot, if not she everyday tell you about Pn Lye, Pn Lye and you also dont have today, now you also forget the past already.'

I said

'You talk until where? Emily will talked those Pn Lye's thing to me is because it really happened, if no such thing happen she also dont have so many stories to tell me.'

She said

'I just think Emily's person is jia you jia jiang... she keep telling you about Pn Lye's bad things, so make you the more you hate about Pn Lye.'

I said

'If she never tell me about Pn Lye things, I also early early already dont like Pn lye.'

She said

'Yes I know you early early already dont like pn lye, but after she tambah-tambah those stories to you, you lagi dont like pn lye right or not? You tell me now.....'

I said

'Hmmmm... okay la... now let say if exclude her character.... why you say her family standard is not that rich and can't mix me? If she not rich, why she wants to tell me she is rich?'

She said

'Because she is not that rich, just the way she wear and the way she behaved make people thought she is rich, she just pretended rich to you...'

I said

'Why she wants to pretend rich to me?'

She said

'Very simple, because you are rich, if she never pretend rich, people sure say this Emily not rich still nge nge want to mix with anak datuk, so when she pretend rich edi, nobody will say that, and the second reason is she pretend rich is dont want you leave her.'

I said

'What means?'

She said

'Means she wants to let you think she is rich, so only you wont leave her.'

I said

'But even though I know she is poor people, I still will mix her what... because we are old friends for many years until now.'

She said

'Ya... I know... because the friends beside you all rich ones what... she don't want people to disqualified her or discriminate her, she dont want people think her as poor people, so those your rich friends will mix her... '

I said

'Wait wait wait... you think until too far edi... why think until my friends?'

She said

'This is fact, another fact is your brain only think about that small area, your thinking can't go further...'

I said

'Then if she really not rich, why we still can't be friends?'

She said

'Can... even she not rich, both of you still can be friends, but not the best one. Because the gap exist.'

I said

'Why?'

She said

'A lot la... for an example, we are the almost same family standard, like I say: Clar... come Australia study with me la... you are rich what... you can straight come... now you really came edi... But let say, if you say : Emily! Come Australia study together with me la... we are best friend, the fact is, she can or not? Her family has that ability or not?'

I said

'Got ah... last time when I still study in MMU, I said Emily, next time we studied MMU together la... you come la... after SPM, she really come!'

She said

'MMU mah... MMU only cost how much? MMU one semester tuition fees not even a month living cost at here...'

I said

'Hmmm.... also true...'

She said

'That is why I said gap exist, you and her really hard to become best friend, your best friend is me, not anyone else... not Emily... no who one else, okay I give you another example, just like last time before you stay with your Hong Kong friends, you keep hesitating whether want to stay with them or not? You say they keep on want to stay in the city, but their budgets are below $150 per week, you say is really hard to find that price, and you say you dont want stay too laoya ones... at the end, you sure will go and find those people who are afford higher prices ones right? Like you sure will come and ask me... Eh... next time we stay each person $250 ones or not? For you, your budget is $250 per week, because you afford it, so for me, I also afford it, I will say ok ah can ah... so at the end, we will stay together, you will stay with me, not them. Because you got gap with them you know? That is why I say what standard of people mix with what standard of friends! Now you can understand already or not? The gap make what standard of people mix with what standard of friends.'

I said

'The world is really so realistic?'

She said

'Not realistic... The is the fact, okay I tell you my personal experience, this story is quite similar between Emily and you, you must listen. Last time I primary school also got one friend, she very close with me, her family quite rich, until one day, her family bankrupt, her brother is a medical student, last time almost go UK study ones... but suddenly bankrupt... so study in Malaysia only... then last time my that friend, when she is still rich, when I ask her come out, she can come out anytime, but after she bankrupt, the financial flow is limited you know? Because come out means must use money mah... so when she bankrupt d... she dont have so much money, she can't keep coming out with me d... then the first time I ask her come out, she said no money to come out... the second time I ask her come out, she said Har! Cant keep coming out leh... my mum just give me how how how much only... then at the end, I also never contact with her, I also never ask her come out anymore, because the gap already exist, she can't afford you know? She unlike us anymore, can go shopping or KTV whenever we feel want.'

I said

'Last week, during sociology class, our lecturer taught about the topic of status and advancement, he also said money is the most important thing in the world. He said imagine you one day, dont come out, dont buy things, dont buy food and stay at home and wait until the next day, he said very hard to do that.'

She said

'Ya la! Money is everything. Have you heard that money is the chips and court is the casino?'

I said

'I dont know... but watch movie always rich people won... why ah? Why like that ones? Is a rule or what?'

She said

'Of course la! First, when you rich, you can hire the best lawyer, second when you rich, you able to pay the larger amount of money for bribe something like that, third when you rich, even you lose, you can play again or litigate again until another party don't afford to play. Fourth, when you rich, everybody stand on your side. So who is the millionaire, who is on the top.'

I said

'Play again how to play until win?'

She said

'Because go court need fees and hire lawyer need money mah... if you are rich, you can keep continue the litigation until you win or until another party dont have money to play, dont have money to hire lawyer, when the party dont have money to contiue anymore means lose edi lo...'

I said

'Hua! If like that, lawyer not very rich? Earn until Siao? Because so many rich people in the world?'

She said

'Ya la! Lawyer earn money from rich people lo... You go and ask your father la... your father business people sure know all these ones... your father do business until so successful sure know a lot lawyers ones...'

I said

'I knew he is doing developer, but how come he got a lot of connection with lawyer ones? Developer got connection with lawyer ones meh? Like sometimes, after he put down a phone, I will simply asked : Eh! Who phone you leh pa? Then he said: NO la... a lawyer... I heard he said what pampasan... dont know what he is talking about...'

She said

'I think your father this business is related to land law, business law all those.... so must got a lot of lawyers connection...'

I said

'Got one time, I heard my father told my eldest sis about career tasks, he teach my eldest sister in her that specific career must know what thing... then I heard he said: Like in my this career field, is different than yours, mine is must know how to go court settle, how to know people cheat my land, how to get compensation, how to claim money from the people who steal my land all those.'

She even laughed and said

'Hahaha!  That is why your father now can so successful, everyday go and claim people's money and go and get compensation from others, where not rich?'

I said

'Haha! Maybe lo... my father every time talk about compensation ones... just like Pn Lye's case with me... he also talked about compensation... he said: Ah Ching, just now I already talked to the lawyer, the lawyer said this case can get back compensation from long-term trauma...'

Tee Syi Rui even laughed and said

'Hahaha! Your father claimed money until so rich? Everything which can be claimed also don't let go...'

I said

'Eh! You think my lawsuits can worth how much? Agak-agak how much?'

She said

'I think wont until million la... but at least got few hundred thousands....'

I said

'How they charged ones? Why so much?'

She said

'I think they collect collect ones... maybe this+this+this... then can charged a lot lo.... and what I know is depends on lawyer ones... the more expensive lawyer, she needs to compensate more... because your lawyer expensive mah.... plus you injured more times... all kumpul-kumpul then can charged a lot of money...'

I said

'Then if like that, why everyone dont want hire expensive lawyer? Since can claim back from defendant?'

She said

'Aiyoooo... say d lo... money is the chips, court is the casino, want to hire expensive lawyer also must have bigger chips mah.... let say your bank account only got 200K deposits, you willing to take out that 200K as chips meh? You no need to survive, no need to use money ah?'

I said

'Then my father leh? So expensive, he wont think of waste money meh?'

She said

'Aiyo waste what money, for example, let say his bank account got 5 millions, let say he hire the best lawyer, 500K, it just like take out the 500K temporarily, and will put back after the case settle. Trust your father! He is a big business man, he wont do ganti rugi business ones!'

I said

'Then why poor people also can do that, why Pn Lye dont want hire a good lawyer also?'

She said

'Pn Lye let say she got 500K in her bank account la... if she take out that 500K she no need eat no need survive ah? Some more, she is going to compensate your father, why she still wants to waste money on her lawyer?'

I said

'Or she is going to do ganti rugi business? Haha!'

Tee Syi Rui even laughed and said

'Hahaha! Nobody will so stupid do ganti rugi business.... If for you, will you?'

I said

'Hmmm for me, I will depends the case, if I going to lose, then I wont hire lawyer, maybe use government ones... free of charge.... if I will win, then maybe I will hire a budget ones.... since I know I will win at the end also.'

(Tee Syi Rui even think like I am very stupid like that)

she said

'Hahaha! See! Even you also know talk like that, what to say Pn Lye?'

I laughed and said

'What u mean now? Now you mean I very stupid and might do ganti rugi business is it?'

She disturbed me and said

'Hahaha! For you, maybe yes! But for your father, definitely no! Because your father is rich and smart! Wont do ganti rugi thing!'

I said

'You think my father wont do ganti rugi business ones?'

She said

'wont la... A person who will do ganti rugi business wont be so rich ones....'

I said

'Ehhh you said like that, I think got reason also... my father really like that ones.... that time I heard my dad told my brother! He said: Ah Sing! Cannot! The thing which got risk, we cannot hold ones.... even few percent of risk, we still dont do it... that time I think they were talking about their housing project....'

She said

'Ya la! Your father can see out very smart, a smart person wont take risk ones... because they dont want rugi, their money is just in only, never out... Just like the case between Pn Lye and you, if got a little risk, I think your father wont file lawsuit also... this is how business people work.'

I said

'But I got told my father, I said Pa... that Pn Lye very scary ones... her person will simply bluffed and harmed ones... then my father laughed and said: What to bluff? what to harm? Mei You Ban Fa De.... In this case she can't escape ones... 100% salah ones....'

She said

'Dang ran mei you ban fa la... because beat people mah....'

I said

'Why beat people means 100% salah?'

She said

'Law is like that ones... who beat people first who salah first... that is why chinese idiom say 君子动口不动手(Jun Zi Dong Kou Bu Dong Shou). The second reason is your injury too serious edi.... third reason is she beat you not the first time already.'

I said

'Why serious means 100% salah?'

She said

'Because its like for example you beat me 1-5 times, I will say aiya! Huay Ching impulsive only... the most that few punches just let her be lo... or I will say Aiya Huay Ching lost of control only.... Suan Liao la... but you look at your leg... all one line one line... will make people feel like intentionally assaulting ones... Intentionally means wrong already.'

I said

'Intentionally? Why you said the same thing as the lawyer? My dad told me the lawyer also said intentionally assaulting? You mean Pn Lye purposely ones? Why keep beating means purposely?'

She said

'Very hard to explain to you... I also dont know how to say... because angry sure got limits ones mah... where got people keep beating wont stop ones....'

I said

'Last time add math she also like this... beat non stop ones....'

She said

'Means intentionally lo... because let say angry also beat the most 4-5 times only....'

I said

'Or she lost control? She told me she gila edi....'

She even laughed and said

'Hahahaha! If she really gila edi she still will tell you she gila edi? lost control not like this ones... just like you and your sis last time, you used chair beat, it shows that you already lost of control and lost of rationality, but you keep beating also not more than 1 minute, means also will stop ones... You understand what I am saying?'

I said

'Oh Ya hor! That time my sis hand just got a little abrasion only. Red red scratches only... But never until like mine like that ones....

'

She even laughed and said

'Ya la! hahaha! Pn Lye Kan Ni Sha mah....'

I said

'You think she really intentionally ones?'

She said

'Very obvious la... you never  see your father straight report police after seeing your backside all bruises...'

I said

'Why she wants to purposely beat me? What's her purpose?'

She said

'No purpose la... some people just beat like that for fun....'

I said

'Fun?? She think is funny? Or she think beat people like that means playing? What your mean by fun?'

She asked

'That day is what situation? How she beat you?'

I said

'I just remembered she keep beating me, and I keep crying. Then Hung Kiat said when he reached, he saw my face very red, a lot of tears, then he asked me since what time Pn Lye beat you? I said since I reached, she beat me until you came. Then I told Hung Kiat I reached at what time, then Hung Kiat looked at the time he phoned me and estimated lo... got around 15 minutes.... and plus his car reached, + walk down the car... another 5 minutes... got 20 minutes....'

She said

'Dian ones this Pn Lye... where got people beat people non stop for 20 minutes ones....'

I said

'Got la got stop awhile la... she said you cry some more I beat some more, then I stop crying, she got stop beating awhile... maybe she angry me even dont have crying sounds already but still got tears on face?'

She said

'She got talked anything when she beat you?'

I said

'Hmmm.... forgot edi leh... I think got talked a bit... Hung Kiat phoned me, then she asked me to show me her phone and asked me who phone me only lo... and said my mum bluffed datin said I get well already... the most terrible is she thought I phoned people, she straight beat me! I never phone you know? Is people phoned me! Hung Kiat phoned me, then my phone rang, then she said : You dare to call you dare to call? Then straight beat.... Dont know why when I said out, I felt like crying...'

Tee Syi Rui said

'Siao ones! She Gu Yi ones....'

I said

'What gu yi?'

She said

'Your phone rang, sure she knows people phone you la... she find reason to beat you ones... that's why I say from head to tail, she intentionally ones....'

I said

'NO.... she dont know... she said: You dare to call you dare to call? She thought other people phone me...'

She said

'Impossible lah.... who dont know? Phone ring means people calling la... where got phone ring means calling people?'

I said

'Then you mean she knows ones ah?'

She said

'Know la... she own self got phone also...'

I said

'Walao! She purposely beat me by finding reason?'

Syi Rui even teased me and said

'Hahaha! Now only you know ah?'

I said

'Actually Hung Kiat also say the almost similar thing thing as you.... both of you talk about a different thing but the same main point, he also got said Pn Lye is purposely ones... he even said: I think Pn Lye sure will find chance to purposely beat you by letting you to say those thing like I dont want means I dont want.... the thing Hung Kiat said is really accurate you know?? I said: EH! How you know? She really got like that leh.... she asked me to put down the stone, she knows I will say I dont want, so she purposely ask me to put down so only she got chance to beat me... after you told me pn lye purposely ones only I recalled hung kiat also said pn lye purposely ones....'

She said

'Then how was your reaction?'

I said

'At that time, I know if I say I dont want, sure she will beat me ones, then I just keep quiet and dont dare to say, I dont want to put down the stone, because not I put it ones. When I reached the stones already at there, so I think sure she put it herself ones... because I think she always find chance to beat people, so she put it herself and wanna ask me grab it down, if I say dont want, she wants to beat me. Do u think she put it herself ones?'

She asked

'Or you put it long time ago but she never take down?'

I said

'NO la... I remember I just put it on the first day I reached M'sia, impossible so many days she never take it down, because I still got went KL with hung kiat for 3 days... and after I came back from Australia, I already became wont go her there so often, like few days once, few days once, and even I went, also not even 5 minutes and went off already.... the most important is also never do anything anymore. So I think after I come back from australia, I go her there how often she own self sure know what... so I know she think since I not everyday come, sure she will take down the stones ones... Until she agak when its time that I almost go back Australia, she put the stones herself and find chance to ask me put down. Like find chance kenakan me like that.'

She even said

'Hmmm.... I really dont know what Pn Lye is thinking.... since she knows you are almost recovery, why she still want to cari so many pasal....'

I said

'This is the question that came to my mind in the first place, I think she dont want me to forget the past, so she knows when I almost recover, she quickly beat me to avoid me to forget the past.'