Social stratification

Last semester,

I did enjoyed my course really much,

especially the subject of sociology,

I learned a lot of fresh things realistically,

I viewed the world wider and peek the facts further.

Frankly speaking, once again,

I hope I can take sociology as my submajor course as it taught me a lot of political things.

Hopefully,

I pray hard to God that I can successfully enroll the sub-major of sociology on this Monday.

During sociology class,

I remembered the unforgettable topic 'Social stratification'.

Not only my peers told me about the social gap,

even the sociology lecturer had indoctrinated about that in class.

Vividly recalled,

he said

'The higher class people mix with higher class people, and the lower class people mix with lower class people. It's a level boundary between society.This is the meaning of the topic - social stratification.'

I knew this is cruel to be heard for the people who came from poor family,

but truthfully,

this is what I learned and perceived from the rich education.

And I find it so truth, it's a fact rather than stereotype or racial discrimination.

People around me often reminds me; differentiate and explained to me about the 'gap'.

Initially,

I don't really understand why people tend to look down poor people; crowd out them and try to seek for higher social stratification people.

Datin had implied me in earlier, but seems like I don't get her pure meaning.

She said

'People in the world are realistic, Clarissa I tell you, everyone climb up and never look down.'

Fabiola said

'Clar, you still dont know what I mean? This is inevitable gap, natural and cant avoid one, what standard of people sure mix with what standard of people ones... let say a poor people mix with a rich people, one day still will separate ones.. .because the gap exist, the poor cant afford you know?'

Daddy did slightly implied but not really straight forward to say that.

He said

'Why are you finding problems for yourself? Why you know that friend dont have money already you still want to stay with her? Very obvious, nobody wants to stay with her because she dont have money to pay rental, you still go and stay with her? Ah Ching... listen to papa... nobody wants problem ones... problems very troublesome ones.. we can avoid we just avoid. This type of thing dont too soft-hearted, you will just make yourself suffer.'

Yet, ultimately,

I experienced and understood the facts thoroughly.

After Ada moved in,

all troubles came to me directly.

I really regretted to let her stay in my house.

The biggest problem is she came from a poor family but act like a princess,

she cant cook, wash, clean and mop.

I didn't blame her because in the eyes of every parents, every child are pearl.

Regardless of rich or poor,

no one parent willing to let their child drop a sweat in doing house chores,

I understood that.

But the  most importantly,

she doesn't even wants to learn; try to do or try her best to survive better.

At least,

make the house cleaner rather than the dust stained everywhere.

She has no money, but insist to play piano like a princess.

I agreed to share a piano with her.

I told her we can buy a second hand piano via the net,

it just $185 for everything, the piano; the stool and headphone.

Subsequently,

I had ordered in few days ago and tomorrow have to pay in cash to get the piano.

Tonight,

she told me

'Sorry, my mum doesnt allow me to buy the piano.'

I told her

'Yes, I know your mum doesnt allow you to buy the piano, but you had already confirmed with me and I already ordered from the seller. Its too late to cancel, now already 9pm something.'

She replied me

'Sorry, my mum said she cant gives me the money because she dont have so much money. I really cant afford the piano.'

Here is the fact and point,

previously,

daddy asked me to trust him and told me his foresee will never wrong.

'Staying with a poor is equivalent of finding a problem for yourself. We dont find problems, problems are troublesome, we can avoid, we just avoid.'

Finally I realized what daddy told me is so truth and I did regretted so much staying with her.

Contract has signed, what to do? She has no money?

Daddy had told me previously,

he said

'Not she dont want to pay you the money, is she dont even have the money to pay you. How to pay you?'

But at the end,

I still pity her because she has no place to stay,

people avoid staying with her because she cant afford rental.

And I think a solution to help her,

I rent a cheaper apartment, it's only $1000 per month.

Each person $500 per month,

but at the end,

this price also she couldn't afford?

Everyone was shocked.

 My goodness for sake!

Perhaps this is the definition of poor?

 Well, I surrendered.

I have to understand the vocab of poor is undefined. 

But,

I felt like it's really not understandable.

Since she already poor, why not to learn to do house chores?

Why she can't learn from me?

Learn the concept of  'Princess turn to maid' instead of 'maid imitate princess'.

Besides,

I don't really understand her mum.

Why she came from a poor family still send her child study in Australia,

make her child so suffer, being isolated by peers?

Maybe,

it just like what Fabiola said

'Dont have that ingredient then just dont blend in, once blend in, you have to afford every ingredients in the blender. If you cant afford, make your child suffer only. Clar... one day you will know what I am saying, when the gap exist, automatically will separate ones... this kind of thing cannot avoid ones...'

  

 

This is the same thing that one of my Hong Kong friend suffered before.

She told me her father is a successful business who start from scratch,

prior to her middle school life, her family business hasn't build up,

and she studied English private school when she was in her primary,

she claimed that the price is really only affordable for the rich,

but her parents still let her go in.

When she was in standard 1,

rich kids in her class had noticed her school bag and the way she dressed was distinctly came from a poor family.

She said at that time,

she everyday eat at home because still dont have much money to eat outside so she has a lot of good foods never taste before.

Student in the class often insulted her by saying

'This also you never eat before?'

Then followed by laughing out loud altogether.

She experienced this when she was standard 1 and standard 2.

After that,

her parents couldn't afford the expensive school fees at the same time and thereby transferred her to normal school.

When I told Syi Rui about this fact,

she said

'There, I already said lo... if dont have that ingredient, then just dont blend in, what for make own child suffered in school? be teased and get bullied? Clar... is like that ones... I told you many times, this is automatic ones... because the gap exist, very hard to mix together. Even the language also different you know? Like rich people talk about Prada, Lv while poor people talk about which mama store havent try before. Ok lah... let say standard 1 small kid in school, rich kid talk about electronic games, Ipad, Ipod, how poor kids know all those? Poor kids play gasing only. There is why I said the gaps exist is very hard to blend together one... you see... why both of us can blend together since form 1? Because from equal family background you understand or not? That is why I told you make friends choose the quality one, if not you will just make yourself pay doubly. You know what I mean Clar, I dont need explain thoroughly. '

I said

'But how those people would knew she is poor kid?'

She said

'Aiya, poor kid rich kid you cant see out meh? Very common sense mah... See the way a person dress, the thing a person used, the place they go already knew la.... rich kid go cafe lo... poor kid go mama tang lo... like that dont tell me you cant see out?'

 

I said

'But standard 1 know how to differentiate poor and rich?'

She said

'Aiya... nowadays small kid where dont know? For example, ben ten toy... everyone have, she dont have... then very obvious d lo... or Iphone everyone have, she dont have... lagi obvious d lo...'

I said

'Also true.'

She said

'That is why rich kids also got rich kids world. They can differentiate between poor and rich ones... Even like you study normal government school, everyone wearing the same pinafore, but the things you wear, like watch, shoes or the way you behaved, people can know you are rich or poor.'

I said

'Haha how to say the way a person behaved can know is poor or rich?'

She said

'Just like for example the way a person spend money.. buy this buy that, then not very obvious that person is rich already lo... poor people sure got limited pocket money mah...'

Thereby, here's the point,

I just so disagreed Ada's mum behave that way.

It's time to stop her child from playing piano and start learning to do house chore.

What's the point pampered her child that way?

Sigh,

I am really speechless from this situation.

I just hope she can back to her origin status and stop behaving like a person that she wouldn't be.

I am so frustrated today.

But for me,

I wouldn't behave like her,

I will turn myself into a character where I supposed to be.

I will back to realistic; back to the place and status where I supposed to be.

It's so rationally,

when I am staying in a mansion,of course, I am a princess; when I am staying in an apartment, of course, I am a servant.

 

Yet,

 the truth is, I have the financial ability,

I could be both princess and servant.